Where are the introverted people? I need support, I feel a bit ashamed of being one. People always say that I'm quiet which pisses me off. I also spend some time by myself.
Hi Ashley. I'm an intro as well and there is definitely pressure in the US to be an extro. Team captains, presidents and celebrities are getting seen as people to emulate and they 're all mainly extroverts. But there is nothing wrong with being an intro. It means you recharge differently and think/process differently, but certainly nothing to be ashamed of. For your friends, please tell them your don't like it when they say thAt you're too quiet. If they really do respect you they will stop. If they don't ... then it's time for new friends anyway. I bet they don't have any idea it bothers you. You may also find if you speak less, you opinions and perspectives count for more when you do say them. This is the approach I have used in business and have had much success by speaking to key points or at key times...no need to just 'fill the air with chatter"! Best of luck!
What if most of your whole family are extrovert?
Mine definitely are. Turns out my wife committed us to a new year's eve party at the neighbors, watching the Rose Parade with friends, attending a birthday party after the parade and hosting new year's day (evening) party at our house tonight. I just tell her 'whoa - i'm not doing all that.' As an extrovert, she just gets more energized by doing more things with more people. As an intro, it's fun, but I need a break or it turns into a grind. So after the parade I'm skipping one of the parties (right now) and will be back online with all of them tonight. I've noticed my brother in law (a fellow intro) does the same thing. That way we're recharged and ready to have fun with everyone at the things that really count. There are a few books out right now about introverts, how we work, how we can contribute, and interesting cultural differneces in different countries. It may help give you some insights on yourself and what you need - so i'd recommend giving at least one a try.
You wouldnt believe how many celebrities, athletes, even our current President is an "introvert". Even people who are outgoing in public tend to really be introverted. Being an introvert doesnt give you an excuse to be quiet though it just means that if you go out to a big social scene you need time to recharge (alone time). Being queit when with a group of people can mean only one of two things you dont have anything interesting to say (you need to learn,see,do more = be curious) or you dont believe you have anything interesting to say (low self-esteem). So just get out more & do more of what interest you and then you will have more to bring to the conversation and have no need to be quiet. Good luck hope this helps : )