Controling or insecure????

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Jan 25, 2014 8:06am
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My husband wont let me go to the gym for some reason he says there is too much guys and thats how infidelity starts blah blah blah... he is a "macho mexican" do u think he is afraid of me finding another guy or afraid my body will get in shape? ?? Anyone else been or going through this...

25 Jan
In my opinion it does sound a bit controlling..Maybe try to explain to him you are not going to the gym to meet guys but to get in shape and feel good about yourself. You could go to just a women only gym. I personally like working out at home but if I did go to a gym I dont think my bf would mind.
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Jan 25, 2014 8:12am
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Wow that really sucks. I can't think of any motivation for that behavior that isn't rooted in SOME kind if negative idea, either self esteem, or lack of respect/trust for you, or many others.

You're married, so you gotta work with each other. You gotta respect how he feels while you can also try to change it. Maybe he has an idea about gyms that needs to be changed. Maybe he thinks they are way more about picking up women /men than they really are. Maybe you could find a "curves" or another all women gym.

I hope you can find a way to work through this. This is a bad sign, if he won't let you go someplace because of whatever ideas he has, what's to stop him from saying you can't go anywhere else in public?

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566 Posts
Jan 25, 2014 4:06pm
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May be you both can work out together?
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Jan 25, 2014 6:03pm
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Hunny mostly its a male thing. Mine is the same way. I would tell him u want both of u to go together because you would love to get motivated and want him to help. That should do the trick!

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Jan 25, 2014 6:28pm
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If you have been married for awhile and his intentions are controlling then ths probably  isn't the first time ths kind of thing has been said or done..if u are newly weds its more thn likely a red flag ...if you have been married a long time and ths is out of character for him thn you  of all people knw tht and Maybe you to need to talk and find out y he is feeling and thinking ths way... controlling relationships are abusive relationships most of the time and many escalate to violence...I'm not 100% sure but If youve been together for awhile I'm willing to say ths controlling or insecure question is a question uve asked knowing the answer already

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55 Posts
Jan 25, 2014 6:29pm
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I have the opposite situation. My girlfriend keeps trying to make me go to the gym, but I can't because I'm scared guys will check me out.
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Jan 26, 2014 1:34am
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Maybe both. I admit sometimes I feel insecure with my wife, but I'm sure she feels like that about me. If anything I support her going to the gym and making herself feel better about her body. Why not ask him to join you, maybe he will see you're serious about working out and remaining a sexy lady for him. I go with my wife, don't always do the same workouts but we go together, we support each other. 

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Jan 26, 2014 1:57am
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Both.

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Jan 29, 2014 5:36pm
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I guess he is possessive... My bf is possessive too... But then i m worst

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