Ok, I know a ton of people talk about this, but I still wonder. Many people have told me I'm pretty or beautiful, mostly family and friends. I honestly don't see it. I'm not trying to start a pity party for myself, I'm just wondering how to boost my self confidence, and suggestions?
I used to have a problem with confidence when I was younger, but it took me the longest time to move out of that phase. Here are a few things that helped:
- List your strengths and weaknesses. Confidence doesn’t mean that you can do anything, it means you know your limits and are comfortable in that knowledge.
- Workout. It gives you a positive image of yourself, and it feels nice when people that you haven’t seen in a while tell your that you look good!
- Give yourself a boost before doing something that you aren't comfortable with such as a job interview, or that date with your crush. For example: I would get ready, and as I am shaving to go for that interview I'm worried about, I would start complimenting myself in the third person for actually going through with the interview. Then as I am wearing my suit, I'd start telling myself how I got this, and that they are lucky to have me go work for them.
I know that my last point sounds silly, but it actually did work for me. I don't need to do it at a regular basis anymore, but you will still see me mumble to myself before a date that I'm anxious about! Studies have shown that repetition of a word or phrase does ingrain it in the participants head. (It could be the reason why you see people in a trance at sport events chanting their favorite cheer).
Last and definitely not least is the reason you are here: Working Out!
It helps remove stress, elevate your mood, and gives you a better image of yourself in the mirror.
I agree with THE C. Self talk is a great way to boost self confidence. Self confidence is exactly what it says it is and can only be gained through ones self. If you think negative thoughts about yourself you will never get to where you want to be. YOU have to keep it positive. Tell yourself your good qualities everyday and even when you are down. Don't forget about your "bad" qualities though. They are there for a reason and you can make the choice to improve on them or not. Make a list of the good and bad so you can see them on paper then break it down and start doing some research on how you can improve your weak points as well as your strong points. If you ignore the strong points and only focus on the weeks points the strong will eventually become the weak. You are doing great and have done the first step to anything..... asking for help and guidance. Get to it and don't ever give up no matter how bad it gets.