I really have no one to be on this health kick with but my boyfriend. I want to but I try to hide it from him. He likes the gym and really doesn't eat right at all. I like to try to eat right but dont work out. But every time he brings up working out I get into defensive mode. And he makes comments on how much he wants me to work out with him. But I get offended like he Im not good enough. Wich I know is dumb. But idk how to switch that off. Im overweight and so I guess I'm more self conscious about it. Im wanting a work out buddy. But he is skinny and wants to gain muscle and I'm more wanting cardio. So Id rather do that with a girl. But I have no female friends who live in this area. So its annoying hoe I take offense to his comments. I want to turn that off but I cant help myself
Probably the first thing you should do is tell him how you feel. Tell him that your sorry for doing it and then ADMIT that working out is sortove hard for you, but try it and then workout a few times. If you really don't like it, then just tell him that you don't want to do it no more and if he has a problem with it, than how can he be your boyfriend? Can't he workout on his own time after all?
Hi Colby, are you competitive? If so make it interesting make bets against each other and have him do something crazy and vice versa. As for the gym, why don't you start to exercise at home, invite some girls over and maybe start a zumba class until you feel comfortable to go to the gym.That's what I did and I lost 50 lbs from 255 lbs.
You should try to find something you both enjoy. Maybe something like dancing, hiking or even climbing? So he can also do his type of sport and you can do cardio. He wants to do activities with you so he cares. Don't feel offended by his questions. :) Have you ever tried to hang an ad to blackboards in your local gym or where you work? Maybe there are other people in your area who are also looking for workout partners?
You shouldn't worry too much about what kind of exercise you prefer (cardio or weight) especially if that is part of what is keeping you outta the gym.
However going with your bf who already goes may put you in a weird power dynamic where you feel you gotta listen to him and take his advice or maybe you feel silly or self conscious or somehow LESS than him and I can understand not wanting that. The advice to take up another healthy hobby together it's great for that.
Weight training is great for health and weight loss also, don't let that stop you...and being IN the gym is way better than not...
Great Ideas people. But another thing I didnt add is the fact when he sees overweight ppl. He always makes negitive comments to them. Which makes me mad bc I am overweight too.
Tell me about it. So thats another reason to be defensive. He is positive with me. But still makes me think weirdly
I know exactly what you mean. Even though I know I need to lose weight and need the encouragement I get defensive about it. Think the only way to stop getting defensive is to start doing things to lose weight. Walking everyday is a great start. If you have Xbox 360 kinect has helped me start losing a few pounds with dance central and your shape 2012. The kinect was very helpful to get started cause i can do it whenever I'm alone. Don't like working out in front of my boyfriend either. Good luck. If you want a workout buddy let me know.
Been working out as much as I can.