For about 3 months of working out at the gym, i didn't encountered problems so far. But lately , a gym trainer trying to flirt with me and its f.awkward cos i cannot concentrate. Im afraid i'll get discourage of going at the gym.
what should i do?
Perhaps you should say that you are flattered (even if you aren't), but you have a significant other whom you are very loyal to and have no interest in others. That way there is no confrontation but you are still telling him you aren't interested.
I had this problem when I was younger (wish I had it more often now.) IMHO there are two ways you can deal with it:
1. Be cold to him. Don't look him in the eye. Give one word responses to things he says. Don't say hi. Be as rude as possible. If that doesn't work,
2. Talk to the gym about it. There is no reason that someone from the gym should make you feel uncomfortable.
Actually 3. Tell him that he is making you uncomfortable and ask him politely if he minds if you work out alone.
Margaret, I'm sure you still have your share of this problem! I think you have a good idea for a female who might have a bolder personality than Kris, but I think the whole thing with her is that she wants a resolution without a confrontation. Read what she has posted again, and you'll see she doesn't want to face this trainer every time she comes in with either his hitting on her or maybe a cold stare for her turning him down or repoting him. She just wants the problem to go away. That's why I suggested saying she already is in a relationship (although that doesn't stop some men, smh). I'm advocating for my previously posted solution because this could give her the results she wants... the trainer backing off without feeling rejected (we men have such frail egos, lol). I hope whatever Kris chooses to do will aliviate the problem!
Its not running away but i guess it MAY be one of the possible option.
1. Change ur workout time.
2. Change the gym.
3. Take ur bf with you.
Did you just try to tell him that you are not interested?
Had the same problem. Just had to keep telling myself "This my gym. I pay for my membership. I'm here to work. Not to socialize." I wanted so badly to hide but I got over it and the other person got the hint and moved on to someone else probably. Just stay focused. Your actions will speak louder than words and when they see that you are on your business and not interested in their business it will pass. But yeah I've sat outside the gym a few times having to psych myself up to just go in and be me. Good luck.
Tell him to f off. Get management involved if needed
thank you guys.
i truly appreciate your suggestions! now i got ideas, probably, i'll start doing those. THANK YOU!
come on gilrl....... i mean i'm sure he was flirting with you..... it's his job to flirt to a certain degree... he is getting im the way of your work out then ..try to let him know........... that i'm sure will do thrick and if it doesn't then you gotz to get a new one........