Women are being objectified: Urgent!!! Please read
This is going to be the most important topic I out of all my other topics so listen up!!! I see a lot of guys on here putting comments about how they want women bodies to look like, and commenting like crazy when women put on inappropriate pictures. I sometimes don't see any decent men on here. Women do you want men to treat you like objects? Women are being rape and sexually assaulted everyday!!! You should be finding those comments very offensive and hurtful. Even when they say those things in real life, and you don't know if that guy is going to come at you. Women can't be alone most of the time when we go out. Day and night time we have to be around people most of the time in oder to be safe. I read an article about a woman who is a rape victim and was talking about this topic. She didn't say all men were like this, but she does say that some decent guys are not doing their job to respect and protect women. They are scared that people (including friends) might think of them as gay. We have to end up protecting ourselves. Some people even blame the rape victims for getting raped. They say to them '' you shouldn't have been wearing the clothes that you were wearing'' or ''you should of learn to protect yourself''. It is never the victim fault!!! When I read this article, I was thinking that this is so sad. That there's no hope in true love nowadays. That most guys only care about what women look like and sex. It's mostly hard to find decent men nowadays. I feel so sorry for all the rape and sexually assaulted victims. They have to live in fear of men every single day. They can never trust men anymore. They can't be friends with the men that were their friends. To all the women out there please be more careful on what you put online, watch your surroundings and stand up for yourselves if guys say something inappropriate to you. To all the decent men out there, please continue to treat women right and try to protect them. Don't be indecent just because you are around people. Stand up for women!!! Thank you for taking your time to read this.
The case is just worse in India. Look at the number of rapes occurring here daily.
The women need to stand up, too. If she's offended by a comment, then she needs to address it and distance herself from that person. On the flip side, men that have been told to stop need to do so. I've seen guys continue to pursue and harass even after bein' told "No." But there are women that post pics that are obviously shoutin' for sexual attention and if that's all they think they're worth then we can tell 'em 'til their ears bleed that they're more than a body but they gotta figure it out for themselves. Sadly, they don't realize until somethin' tragi happens to 'em. There will always be creeps and women that desperately crave any attention they can get and all you can do is not associate with them if they won't accept any help.
Weren't you the same girl who started topics like "Where's all the sexy people?!" And "Do you look good naked?" And I could have sworn you had some pretty revealing photos before you took them down. Why the sudden hypocrisy?
Trust me women dont go out wearing mini dresses just to look good for their girls, they want male attention. Now I dont know what your post was aimed towards bc the women who WANT (not Dont Want) that attention do things and keep doing those things to get it on this app or whereever. Most pics of people up here who are showing too much or overdoing it are more than likely catfishing or using this app as a dating site so i wouldnt bother pointing those people out, this is a workout app and is for keeping each other motivated to reach our fitness goals. Stay positive, stay motivated! : )
You can take your accusations elswhere.
You can adress problems about rape and inapropriate behaviour, thats all good. But when you accuse all men, specially the ones using this app, so me. As some weird sex predator from who all women should be afraid off. I dont take that bullshit, cuz thats what this is. And i ask you to take it elswhere.
I agree with your point, but you put pictures up of you in your underwear and bra so I don't think you should talk about what others put up.
For all the people that say I used to be like that kind of woman, okay I get it I know that I was like that!!! Guys were treating me like an object. Guys leaving inappropriate comments and that's why I took those pictures down!!!
Most of the women are not even safe at home.Fathers or brothers could prove to be a big threat.
I really, honestly do sympathize with those who have been sexually abused. Its a terrible, awful thing that has become all too common these days...
That being said...
I object to SO MUCH of what you said.
You accused all men of indecency... excuse me?!
Last time i checked, you have never met every living male. I appologize if youve had the unfortunate experience of being harrassed or known a share of less than decent men, but... really? Thats... horrendous. I have no words for how sexist and rude that was.
Next, what grown women show of themselves is their choice. They are grown women who can make their own decisions. They understand the possible consequences. You would have to live under a rock to NOT be aware of them. If they want to show themselves for whatever reason, thats their right, and you should respect that.
Same goes for men.
And though i dont believe abuse victims are the ones to blame.... get real ladies! (And gentlemen!) People arent always nice! Self defense is one of the most valuable skills you can ever learn. And standing up for yourself- learning when to tell someone to shove off- you have to be able to do that!
All im saying is your rant/public service announvement/speech/warning... it was extremely acusatory!
I am a lady. I have my morals. But what other people do is none of my f***ing buisness. And there are plenty of decent men that you should appologize to. What you said was rude and uncalled for.
Decent men still exist. But it's quite hard to find them out.
You say all men think about is sex. First off, that is sexist and very untrue, regardless of what your tween magazines say. Secondly, it really just sounds like you either just got dumped, or are not happy with your results, so you have to take it out on others. Third, yes, guys do think alot about sex. It is programmed in all of us to do so. You do realize that sexual stimulation is an unlearned reinforcer, meaning EVERYONE strives for it, not just men. Just like needing food, water and shelter, You don't learn to like sex, it is programmed in everyone of us one you reach the right age. Because of our society, though, women cannot be as open with their sexuality, lest they look like a "slut". Why does every issue of Cosmo have a topic on how to have a 45 minute orgasm, or the top 20 ways to please your man? Bottom line, it is not all we think of, totally sexist remark.
I bid you good day, ma'am
Ok.... Just to something important...
Well then, really sorry if anything that I or any other guy has said makes you feel that way but I'd have to say most guys (including me) only comment or like as a way to congratulate that person. So... Yeah, sorry.
I think it just seems like most men are indecent cuz the decent ones are off minding their own business, NOT commenting on every woman's pics. You know, kind of a "squeaky wheel" kind of thing.
It totally sucks that the guys who are inappropriate are the ones who mostly define the environment, though. It only takes a couple of creeps to make any place feel unsafe, and it doesn't matter if there are a thousand nice guys if they are all just "respectfully" keeping quiet.
Its difficult to tell what a woman wants sometimes, I see men who leave inappropriate comments but then the woman says "thanks!" So I often don't feel like its my place to say something first...which is kind of a shame sometimes because a lot of people are not the confrontational type, especially women in such a situation..and maybe many of then would appreciate if more men stood up to other men and said, "hey dude, that's not how you should talk to women" I mean, we could say that even IF the woman says "thanks" cuz it would still be true.
I've read a lot of stuff about issues like this in the past few years, and talked to a lot of friends...it really interests me to explore the boundaries between the experiences of men and women, and the crazy ideas we get about each others experiences, too. Like how many half-decent men just can't seem to believe it when women tell them just how bad it can be, cuz they never do it and never see it. I tend to believe my friends and I've realized the world is a much different place for men and women.
Thanks for speaking up about this.
I am a victim and everyday of my life I am scared. But I have a man who will be there for me through it all. But deep down inside we live through it alone. We are the ones who experienced it. I don't think it is something you can ever move on from. But I won't let it ruin the rest of my life. I live life as if it never happened. But I will never forget it.
I was just wondering, where are these inappropriate pictures?
I agree with you Ashley, don't listen to the negative things people say. Yeah I'm sure every girl likes to show off their body but most aren't looking for that kind don't of attention. Most are happy that they succeeded their goal. It's not our fault some men are the way they are. We just have to be strong.
no creeper here, i respect everyone i come in contact with on this app. i mean yeah you'll run into a bit of thirsty people(male & females) but everyone i came across pretty cool an we have a neutral respect. but putting up (bar & panties pics etc if course thats going to draw at the creeps, if i comment on someone pic its a thumbs up or way to go nothing more or less. its decent people on here u just can't call out ever dude on this app an say we all the same because that's a false statement.
Women are being objectified, raped,and sexually assalted by women also. I just wanted to make sure that you all knew that being a predator is not just a man thing. Also you said men make inappropriate comments when women post inappropriate pics.What else did you think would happen. You are young. Maybe you should seek counsel from your elders. Live life and prosper.