I've lost some weight and now consider myself to be slim but not skinny. I definitely don't want to lose any more and ideally would like to build some muscle.
However I've been getting comments from friends and people at work that I've lost way too much weight, that they're getting worried about me, that I'm not eating enough, and so on and so forth. They really do think I'm developing an eating disorder.
FWIW I'm currently 147lbs, 5'9, aged 40. According to the NHS website my weight is smack in the middle of the healthy range, as is my BMI score. So what is their problem? Why the concern?
As the world's population is becoming increasingly overweight, I believe the perception of 'normal' is changing with it. Normal is what we see every day, and every day we're all seeing more and more overweight people. Slim folks are becoming the odd ones out.
Please share your thoughts! :)
I agree with you somewhat but I am 6'4" 2 25 lbs with a fair amount of muscle and the chart says I am obese. Some charts say I could go all the way down to 160. In high school I was 176 and looked like a bird.lol . However you feel is most important.
TOTALLY agree with you! I'm 18 and I've lost around 20 or more kg and people and specially family think that I'm crazy if I want to lose some more. I look normal/with a little bit of overweight, I don't consider myself skinny but I think that everyone think that I have a problem because when they think about me they see me as I was before and they are not used as seeing me "skinny". Just because everyone is fat(and I know it sounds rude) doesn't mean they shouldn't let me be skinny.
Ri I think you're spot on with the change thing. One of my concerned colleagues is, amusingly, the same build as I am now. So it's definitely not jealousy. And nobody is worried about him. Interesting!
I think Ri L is on the right track, but missed a turn. Most people don't have a natural context for healthy weight loss. They can't judge if what you're doing is really okay. 2 lbs is a lot of fat, bigger then a brick. Losing 8 lbs a month is visually much more dramatic than most people would expect. So, for you what is a healthy slow loss to them is OMG!
Add the seemingly obsessive type tracking required to monitor caloric intake and expenditure until new habits are developed, and you can see where the perception problems stem from.
Explain what you're doing, where it's coming from, and ask for encouragement. Most of the people who care will come around.