Inappropriate comments from friends
Through 2012 I went from 180lbs down to 118lbs (I'm 5'3"). It was one of the most challenging things I've ever done, and I'm still looking to lose a few more pounds and tone everything up. I have those lovely lady problem areas, my tummy, thighs, and under arms.
At first everyone was very supportive, the first 20-40lbs I just kept hearing how good I looked and that my friends were proud of me. When I got in the 120s though I started to get comments that made me really uncomfortable. I have a friend that calls me Kate Moss, as a compliment (wtf). I have people tell me I'm disappearing, that I better watch out I'll look anorexic, engage me in a conversation about it at group dinners (awkward), or comment on the amount of food I am or am not eating.
I know some of them mean well, or have displaced jealously, but really this just isn't ok. Especially in a group setting where there's usually people smaller than me and larger than me present.
Obviously the boo-birds aren't derailing me, it's mostly just annoying. I usually just change the subject. I'm really thankful for online groups like this, and if anyone else is experiencing this I SUPPORT THE HELL OUT OF YOU.
Try not to take what they say to heart. You did a great job for losing weight. I wish i was 118lbs again but family and friends give me shit since i was just 130 after i had my daughter. Im down to 125 -128 now. I love food and im only trying to tone up, not lose weight. I support you girl. Your doing the right thing for just wanting to tone your body. Don't let anyone get you down or make you feel like your doing wrong. Good luck girl. Your not alone.
I completely understand. I went from 74kg to 62, complimemts at first now simalar to you. Comments about disappearing etc, ive been 62kg for about 3months!!! One 'friend' said i could find a boyfriend now id lost weight (at a group meal) WTF, so annoying! Ignore the haters, do what feels healthy for you! Good luck x
Great transformation! Take it all as a compliment, and if the guys are single it's just flirting.
The same day I write this I get a comment on a picture to eat a sandwich and an email from a bestfriend (who I've seen once in the past two years because she lives across the country) basically asking if I'm anorexic.
I totally understand too, i went from 80kg to 64kg through hard work and pure effort on my behalf. And now i ignore those comments, every now and again though i say to them when it its me down 'i can eat what i like including this chocolate bar and still loose weight, how about you!?' (they Dont know the chocolate bar was a protein snack lol) they tend to shut up pretty quick. I gt more good compliments now and less negative ones, and people coming to me for advice on how they themselves can start to gt fit keep up the great work, you look fantastic ox
Ppl dont understand how to choose the right words.cause I.c u.came.a long way and 1day I b dat size maybe 175 is my. Goal im 256 now so I got a long way
First of all you are an AMAZING person and an Inspiration to all of us. People are crazy and say stupid things. When people around us loose weight an look Fantastic, we tend to feel self conscious and make excuses about why we aren't in shape. We defend ourselves by picking on others ( like how