Question for the ladies
Ladies - On many occasions at the gym, I have witnessed really attractive and well shaped females with dudes who are fat, dusty and straight slobs - why is this? Is it vanity? Are good looking, in shape females intimidated by a guy who may be their equal in physicality (in other words, they wanna be the 'pretty one')? Or are the chicks in my town just weirdos?
So basically if you like someone avoid basing it on physical appearance try sussing her out personality wise. Then make a judgement!
I know exactly what you mean just don't like that some people take advantage of a persons insecurities (ie appearance) and play them for a fool. I have seen it and I have been through it. Never again. I prefer people who honestly enjoy a persons company regardless of their appearance.
Like the saying goes never judge a book by its cover, because you could be missing out on a damn good read
Its mayb bcz good looking guys r generally too much narcissistic... Too much confidence is a turn down...besides who wants a guy who is all abt himself n less abt u. N then love is not abt looks... Its rightly said to b blind
Kanika, too much arrogance is a put off regardless of the gender. Both genders can play that game.
Glad we could help Terry. as long as you understand where we are coming from then you have the ability to change for the better.
In my personal experience, it has always been about personality.
But these ladies all have understandable stories, and they all make sense.
I do, though, think its a bit.... judgemental... for you be passing these judgements on these couples.... just a personal opinion.
Also, some guys may have a nice body but if they have a bad personality, aren't trustworthy, or have an ugly face.... Then they are avoided lol
A shorter way for you to phrase your question: "Why aren't all girls shallow?"
I've met alot of girls like that and i asked one why that and she answered because he'll be just mine, no girl will look at him and i'm pretty sure she was joking, but to say that i think they may have low self esteem, in my opinion you never choose with who you'll fall for, so maybe you say you want someone handsome and amazing but at the end maybe you fall for someone who isn't that. Sorry if i said something wrong i'm from mexico
Mayb they get tired of being objectified and treated horrible and verbally abused and decided to go with someone who would actually appreciate thm and just cause a man likes his steaks and potatoes dnt make him a slob...and they knw it..and women prefer personality and to b treated right and loved rather thn hav a six pack model man tht ain't nothing but a slimeball and always putting her down..and some actually do prefer big guys... of course th six pack model slimeballs can make it hard on th six pack model great guys...making thm perhaps overlooked...but what do I knw ths strictly my opinion and has no fact to it just simply what I've seen and thnk
I think the biggest point is that no matter what a person can look like, they can cheat or play someone as a fool. No matter what looks can not dictate someone's personality.
I think we all have had different experiences but we all pretty much have the same opinion that personality goes first. But in all honesty and I will say I have done this a persons appearance comes first and I have thought phwoar, but talking them shows me something else.
But pretty much from an evolutionary psychological point both genders look at a potential partner with the idea of possibly settling down with. Simple checklists subconsciously about what we desire in the opposite sex.
So we can assume about other people's relationships only so much but really sometimes what we can assume may have some truth to it.
I think that women are over a handsome face and lean towards men that are the total package. Those guys may not be on GQ anytime soon but they are probably amazing men. If they are at the gym together. Even better. Those women nay be the motivation they need to get in shape.
They like them for who they are. Honestly I'm more into fit guys but I've dated "healthier" ones too. Cant always judge a book by its cover.
Well, if an out of shape dude is a girl's thing, to each her own. There are some chubby dudes out there who still keep a nice and clean appearance - those are not dudes I'm referring to. I'm referring to really good looking women who are with dudes who look straight dirty - nasty hair, facial hair unkempt, smells bad - those types
My significant other and me are very active people, we love going long on hikes or weekend backpacking/camping trips together. In fact most of our dates have been going on hikes or bike rides. It's cheap but its the best way to enjoy eachothers company and get to know eachother even more. We save so much money doing that instead of going out on the town for dates.
Who wants ice cream!!!???
Terry hun I was that girl.lol personality till I got to know he was just as ugly on the inside!
To me, looks aren't everything. I'd rather have a guy who's out of shape and treats me like a princess than a very fit man who is too into himself to even notice me(and is probably cheating too because all the ladies are more likely to talk to him than an out of shape one) just a thought!(: