Hmmm...tough choice personally I like a nice 6 pack its a little scary when the arms are too huge or worse: overworked trapezius I went out w/ a guy once who looked like he had tennis balls glued to himself underneath a tight fitting tee
First let me just say that it's awesome you still want to impress your wife! But second, if hers you want to impress then this question should be asked to her. Everyone's opinion is different but hers is the only one that matters. If her response is your perfect just how you are, then just shoot for both abs and arms Good luck!
Imo go for your own goals and impress her with reaching them ( and your improves body )
Arms are a huge turn on!!!
Ye well, im only 17 but heard women love a nice back :) ofcourse abs and arms are nice too :p (tip: train triceps for big arms, looks better as well).
Ow anf i am a guy haha ;p
Arms...let's be honest, they look nicer because you can see them through your shirt, unlike your stomach, and a six pack looks like you are trying too hard. After all, what girl doesn't like a man who can pick them up and look good doing it? You are married and most women don't mind if you don't have a six pack but like when they can see your lean, muscular arms (especially if it attracts attention from other women starting at her man). No matter the advice, you know Herr best so go with your gut...honestly, no matter which you choose, I assure you she will appreciate your effort best of all!
I think the best look is when it's in proportion. If I had to choose tho, abs ;) good luck, it's a very nice way to show her that ur making an effort.
If you don't want to ask her directly (cuz everyone is different and it's HER preference you want) you might try occasionally showing her pics of different body type celebs and models, and see what she says. You don't even have to do it all in one day or week so it's all noticeable, since you're not gonna reach that goal overnight. You can just occasionally show her a pic like "wow what do you think of this guy"
Thanks everyone y'all been really helpful
You definitely need your wife's opinion on this. I like Patrick's idea.
Personally, I think proportion is important so both.