Just wondering...

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Feb 23, 2014 9:13pm
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How do you ladies feel about your significant other having porn or naked girls on their computers?

23 Feb
What's up smash?
23 Feb
Hey Princess thanx for posting. I realize this a fitness app and this an awkward topic but I have also come to find it is a supportive and open group of ppl so I put it out there whether I get negative comments or not..oh well lol. I was curious how other women feel about this sort of thing..don't get me wrong I'm no prude but coming across this sort of thing left me feeling hurt. I'm not sure if I'm even in the right to feel this way I just wanted other people's perspective and opinions on this.
23 Feb
Sorry for rambling a bit there lol too many thoughts haha
24 Feb
If I had a bf I think I would feel very uneasy! Full stop.
24 Feb
K thanks for the reply Princess:-) Good to know I'm not alone feeling that way.
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Feb 24, 2014 1:49am
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It is only ok if I knew they had it there before he was my significant other. What I mean is, if I knew he liked porn before I was his girlfriend then I have to accept the fact that he will like it during. Which is why I choose not to date porn lovers lol.

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Feb 24, 2014 2:11am
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Every guy likes porn - hot naked girls doing 'things'... is it a bad habit to have, yes, it can be, like if he feeds into the fantasy and goes all Tiger woods and stuff - but it's normal for dudes to like the stuff. If a grown man tells you he doesn't like watching hot naked girls (AKA 'porn'):

A. He's never watched it (in which case he can't really say that he dislikes it since he's never watched it)
B. He's lying to you
C. He's a eunuch and has no testosterone flowing through his body whatsoever

Besides, porn can be 'educational' - he could be watching to get ideas of things to try out with you. Talk to him about it, tell him your concerns

24 Feb
Okay thank you. :-)
24 Feb
Or simply hasn't discovered the right kind of porn. Or was basically trained at a young age that porn is "dirty" and is incapable of relaxing enough to enjoy watching it. That happens. Mainly with girls though. Happens to dudes too! Poor things.
14 Jan
I don't know I was really into it and I liked it but then I noticed some things about my self almost 5-6 years later that I was tired with dealing all of the time. I finally decided it was due to porn. One of them was my lack of respect for women. Men say porn doesn't alter them but it does. But the only way you can see it is if your willing. So people are always going to point fingers in your face. Honestly I hate porn now and I never intend to going back. I have better...
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Feb 24, 2014 2:16am
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I know so many guys that have had bad girls that this is the only way for them to let go. Saddens me. Everytime I here that this what some guys feel like is all there is to go for. Especially feeling as if they have to hide it.

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Feb 24, 2014 2:19am
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I agree completely. Of course we gonna get reported since this turned into a hate thread. I won't be posting again or reading but ty sir I couldn't havensaid it better myself.

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Feb 24, 2014 2:19am
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I would add that porn is an addiction that while it is not good it is an addiction none the less. I won't say that someone should accept their partner viewing porn, have compassion. It is probably less to do with their feelings about you and is a compulsion that they can't control. If you really care for the person and desire to get out please do because it is hard to break and is often emotional in nature. Just when you leave try to get them to get help for it.

I am speaking as a man that battled the same problem. I understand the way you feel as it seems you are not good or sexy enough. Men often deal with same issue. I'm sorry for you situation and sympathize with you. You cannot be blamed for wanting to leave. I hope for the best for you. God bless.

24 Feb
Thank you Marc for taking time to reply to this post. A man's point if view helps. Sometimes feel as though I am in the wrong for being hurt about such a thing. Your post has helped me understand a little better. My bf has promised not to look or watch videos as he saw how much I was hurt by it and I hope he does. I love him very much and I know he loves me very much I'm confident this is something we can over come. Thank u for the post :-) God bless.
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Feb 24, 2014 2:53am
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You should understand that it is an addiction period. He may not be able to stop with help. He may want to but without professional help it may not be possible. The effects are very strong and compelling. If you wish to support him I applaud you just know it won't be as simple as him wanting to stop. I know from experience. I wish you both well and glad to be able to help.

24 Feb
It's not always an addiction. Sometimes just an occasional pleasure. The last thing we need is to believe all guys are addicts if see they like porn lol
24 Feb
I was about to say the same actually lol. I don't think by any means he is addicted to porn... but the idea of him watching it all doesn't thrill me either.
24 Feb
You know him and I don't so as long as you are comfortable he will keep his word that is a good thing. Glad you all let me chime in on the subject.
24 Feb
K I appreciate your input :-) thanks for post.
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Feb 24, 2014 3:45am
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Woah..way to much information.. I stepped into the wrong thread....sorry :( uhhh bye

24 Feb
P.s I mean no disrespect to u smash u... sorry
24 Feb
Hey Hannah I'm sorry about my post. I hope I didn't offend you in any way. :-)
24 Feb
No...I'm not offended more like..umm I dnt knw ...like I walked into the wrong room and its like everyone turns toward the door and your like oops sorry type feeling... and that probley doesn't make sense...dnt be sorry..... its a grown-up... adult thing... Im like ewww! But...I'm just diggin a hole here...I'm sorry smash...I shud of just closed the door an ran..I hope I didn't offend u
24 Feb
Aw okay no worries Hannah. I know what you're saying. I have felt the same way going thru posts on here myself..like "oh oops I'm going to close that thread" lol. You didn't offend me no worries. :-)
24 Feb
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