I concur. We as a society need to stop buying into media propaganda and start loving our bodies. There is a video here
I tell everyone they need to watch it.
I'm in the same position as you Erin, im naturally skinny ( UK size 6/8) no matter what I eat I don't gain wait. Been called anorexic and unhealthy looking way too many times people just don't think it's hurtful when it really is!!
Told my friends and partner I was going to the gym to build muscle so it'd give my arms/shoulders etc more shape but society thinks the gym is purely to lose weight and nothing else, so they strongly disagree. How am I supposed to feel confident about myself if I get told these things but hated if I try to change it?! It's ridiculous!
I can tell you people do call fat people fat to their face. I don't know how many times strangers have said that I'm fat, disgusting etc and this in real life, not hidden behind a screen. I acknowledge that skinny people get rude and hurtful comments too, but I don't think skinny or average built people could ever even imagine how fat people are treated in our society.
With that said, a couple of years I made the decision to NEVER comment on anyone's looks again. Not people on TV, not people I see on the town, not friends or family, neither out loud or to myself. I don't review people's looks and I don't give compliments on looks. I don't want to be part of the social game where you judge people by their looks rather than who they are (although I've had to bend a bit on this principle here on Skimble, because people deserve praise for the hard work they put in to transform their bodies). I don't participate in the "I'm so fat I need to diet" or "my nose is so big and ugly" conversations.
What I soon realized after making this decision was how much of the social interaction that revolves around looks. People constantly talk about how they look, how others look, how they compare to them, how they would want to look etc etc etc. And they get REALLY uncomfortable if you don't participate! I also find it sad that some friends automatically say "wow you look so good, you must have lost weight" every time we meet, no matter how I look. What's wrong with "it's nice to see you and get to spend time with you"?
I could go on about this forever, it's a favorite topic of mine, but I'm gonna end by saying that among other positive things that has come out of this for me, a strong confidence and positive body image are the best.