Intimidated by bros
I'm from London, UK.
I've just started working out, like, this week.
A friend of mine just got diagnosed with lung cancer, she will find out soon if it's terminal. Partly because of that I've decided to really focus on my health this year and try to get strong (I'm 42 and a good weight at last, after years of up and down on the scales but never quite down as far as I'd like).
I'm really intimidated at my little gym though. It's always full of guys. They *never* put the weights back after they've used them. I feel crowded out. I just don't like the atmosphere.
There's no where else close enough to go instead, and I do like this place because it's primarily a spa in a hotel so the pool and Jacuzzi and sauna are lovely for afterwards.
What do you do in the gym when a big guy is working out and taking up all the space? Does anyone have any tricks? Like, do you say hi, or ignore them? Do you have anything you tell yourself in your head to feel brave? Do you feel intimidated too or is it just me?
Would love some supportive suggestions and feedback.
The gym isn't any special place. I talk to whoever I think are cool people. The bro types of dudes are just guys. Some of them might be douchebag, but most will be relaxed ppl. So why not just make a chat and or ask them for some space.
Ok well, I kinda get the awkwardness your feeling, but it's not like there gonna jump you or whatever. Just be cool with them. If you think you need to talk to them or something, just make up some weird conversation , kinda like ask them how a machine works or something. You can motivate them and chances are they won't mind you. If you don't like the mess that they make, than don't clean it up. Let them get themselves in trouble. I mean you can talk to the manager if you feel things are getting out of hang. Just say excuse me and smile. You need to give respect to get it. Another good idea is to bring a friend or find a workout partner so you don't feel so out of place. If all else fails, just be polite and smile and mine your own business. Hopefully it won't get to the point were you would need to talk to the manager of the gym, but just be polite and encouraging.
Oh, and lol, I'm sorry for posting here, I honestly had no intention of posting in the woman's locker . I was just on active topics.