Porn??

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8 Posts
Jan 20, 2014 9:24pm
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My boyfriend and i used to have a good sex life but recently i saw porn on his phone and now i don't even want to have sex anymore.. I feel like I'm not good enough, or skinny enough or pretty enough or sexy enough.. And i feel like, when we have sex, he's thinking about the women in the videos, not me.. I try telling myself that watching porn is natural for guys but it still makes me feel hurt and betrayed.. Please can someone just explain to me if I'm being rational or not, and what porn means to guys in serious relationships!

20 Jan
Its not bad for him to watch porn you should only be worried if he stops wanting to have sex me and my boyfriend watch it and it gives us ideas for things we can do
21 Jan
I don't know if you are open to this but try watching it with him. And if you are comfortable with that I promise you the sex will be awesome
21 Jan
My bf stopped because I ddnt feel comfortable n felt how u did n I think it is disrespectfull
21 Jan
Haha chelsea you really think that?
22 Jan
U should try to watch it with him it will also make ur sex more better if u could do some of the things they do
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Jan 20, 2014 9:35pm
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So you don't feel like he's comparing you to the girls on the screen?

20 Jan
My boyfriend told me that sometimes when he is having his "alone time" he will watch porn to get him going and often he will turn it off and picture him and I doing what was in the video to finish up. I used to feel the same way as you but then I realised that it is totally normal and nothing to worry about if your bf maintains an interest in sex with you. Maybe you could try watching some yourself to get an idea of what it's all about?
16 Aug
I think after guys' first sexual experience the realise that the whole thing is fake the girls' bodies are fake the way that they have sex is fake it's more like when girls watch a romantic movie they know that people don't say I love you on the first date but really it's for entertainment
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Jan 20, 2014 9:59pm
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Okay lets see.
He's a guy. We watch porn, we masturbates and yes sometimes we think about that hot Girl from work, even if we have a GF (or maybe it's just me?). But that doesn't mean that he don't love you and it doesn't mean that he don't want to have sex with you, think of someone else while you'r having sex or that his going to cheat on you.

As long as he doesn't let it effect your relationship just let him do his thing and if you have a problem just talk it trought with him :)
20 Jan
Ok porn ...hah same thing happen to me my bf and I live 80 miles away from each other and one day ..I saw porn on his phone I felt embarrassed..but when I truly thought about it..its his thing ..and as long as I don't watch it im ok..I don't care to see videos like that..he is my 3rd boyfriend and the other 2 same thing they watched porn secretly. .so girl its a thing guys do ..they think about sex more than we do lol..id say its a positive thing as long as he doesn't cheat on you ..then...
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60 Posts
Jan 20, 2014 11:06pm
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I think its healthy to have room for your own sexual exploration and fantasies, you need it in order to be comfortable in your own body. The more comfortable you are with your own sexuality the less uncomfortable you'll be with your partner watching porn. You should be discussing this concern with your partner especially if it's causing trust issues or insecurity between the two of you.  Communication is important in every aspect of any relationship.

26 Jan
Yes, Watching porn is not a sin. You learn new ways to enjoy and to make better sex with your partner. This actually helps you to have a better relationship.
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78 Posts
Jan 20, 2014 11:10pm
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It's in a man's dna to watch porn. Don't fight it watch it with him.

20 Jan
Truth. Even cavemen watched porn on their iphones when they weren't running from sabertooth tigers, starting fires, or sliding down brontosaurus's necks after a long day at the quarry
21 Jan
I can't believe data prices were so cheap back then
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6 Posts
Jan 20, 2014 11:18pm
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100% Agree! Open Communication is key in any relationship. Talk to him about how him watching porn makes you feel. Don't shame him! I watch porn all the time, I don't see it as cheating bc I'm committing an act with myself; nobody else. The benefits of porn is trying out some acts with your boyfriend, for all you know you guys might enjoy them together. Don't be insecure with yourself either it's not flattering, sexy, or attractive on anybody including myself IMO

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Jan 21, 2014 12:07am
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Why were you looking through his phone? Suspicious of something?

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397 Posts
Jan 21, 2014 12:37am
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Damn girl where is your self esteem
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Jan 21, 2014 1:09am
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I can understand how you feel. I feel the same way but my boyfriend is in a different state and has to let go sometimes cause going without sex for long time with guys makes it really hard for them. My boyfriend tells me he use it to improve sex but when I'm around he never touches it. And over year he has watched it less. I say let your boyfriend watch it but there should be a limit. Ask him to not save video or pictures for your own safety. And don't use it when your there. But if he really care he will start with that and when your around more he should do it less. It will also make yourself feel better in the long run. Let him get it out his system and before you know it only girl he will be getting off to is you. That what seem to work for me :)

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7 Posts
Jan 21, 2014 3:09am
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(Elephant in the room!)
Why are we talking about porn on a fitness website?

There are plenty of other sites on the web that would be more well suited for this topic!

Soon more people will probably feel like this is an "OK" topic to write about, and possibly have skimble on the brink of getting shutdown.

I for one actually like this site, its app and everything its about. And would love to see it around for a long time.

I'm sure it'll be easy to find the appropriate site to make these kinds of post... Because we all know this is not it.

Please Don't be offended.
I'm just being honest.

21 Jan
There is a board on here for non workout topics, yeah? All the active ones group together. If skimble hasn't been shut down for half the crap that has already been posted, then this is just fine
21 Jan
Not sure about the board categories, and your probably right, but this just didn't make sense to me seeing this here.
24 Jan
Thank You I had to ask was this a dating app in another post. Seriously kids are trying to turn this app into fb ir something. Ugh it kinda erks me to be honest.
11 Mar
Porn is a part of fitness. It links up. Porn leads to masturbating, and masturbation leads to an awesome arm workout. Further more, by watching the male performer and their physic in some occasions can lead to MOTIVATION to have that physic. For example, I AM NOWHERE NEAR OF BEING GAY; the performer Johnny Sins has by far the ideal body. Just my opinion.
15 Mar
It completely relates! Sex is a great workout annd porn is like a work out video. .kinda like j Jillian Pilates vids...lmao :-)
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8 Posts
Jan 21, 2014 5:35am
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Thank you everyone for explaining for the comments, they really helped a lot and i will definitely try and be much more open about porn now that i understand!

21 Jan
Do u have a Skype i.d?
12 Mar
Really man? Reaaaallly?!
16 Mar
If it makes you feel Insecure your boyfriend needs to honor that and decide what's more important to him. Something that hurts you or something that is on a screen.
05 Jun
I think y I u should watch it with him. He may try somethings on you that you might like :)
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12 Posts
Jan 21, 2014 11:21am
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He could be learning new tricks and then performing them in the bedroom.

21 Jan
Right if you want to please a woman. Internet porn is the way to go.... Or not XD
15 Mar
O yea it totally is :D
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86 Posts
Jan 21, 2014 5:05pm
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Every man with or with out a relationship watches porn... so no worries

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23 Posts
Jan 21, 2014 7:24pm
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Nothing graphic she seemed in need of some answer. .

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278 Posts
Jan 21, 2014 11:24pm
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It's sad,but when I'm actually in a relationship the only time I watch it is if she doesn't want anymore that night,most girls I've been with could only go 3-4 times a day and stop me when I want more which is fine I guess but usually I go to my imagination rather then porn..I think if I wasnt an hour quickie guy I guess I wouldn't have had that problem lol so if he turns to porn,then watch it with him spice things up:)

21 Jan
What is happening .....wheres the effort and a healthy relationship. .im go listen to jonny cash lol
21 Jan
Lol that's why I'm single..
06 Feb
I don't get it!?! I have no desire to watch porno... and pfft dude I figured you would you seem like a sleaze bag to me.. but that is my opinion.. but I know, I know god will forgive you.. so sleep easy.. bahaha
06 Feb
First thing is God is spelled with a capital" G" and yes I sleep very good every night:)
06 Feb
You mean you sleep "Well" Gawd! Get it right... bahahaha I just think you are a dirty meat head... i have been trying my best to keep my comments to myself then I see one like this that is not very Christian like for a (I will use loosely) man that is preaching it daily... bahaha thanks for correcting my smart phones mistake... "G" is for Go F....( I am sure you can figure out the rest..) I actually dislike you and I don't dislike anyone but you are so fake on here and I can tell by looking at...
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55 Posts
Feb 3, 2014 11:33pm
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If I go a week without porn my balls hurt.
03 Feb
Yesss, I was waiting for someone to dig this topic back up.
04 Feb
Lmao these comments are so funny! But yea I think it's healthy shit me and my girl (KT) does it all the time lol
06 Feb
1 week and my Brian starts making it's own Dream porn XD
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72 Posts
Mar 10, 2014 6:33pm
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Like emotional affairs its dangerous and selfish-  communicate.

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6 Posts
Mar 10, 2014 7:07pm
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There's some ppl that will try to convince you that it's nothing, but from personal experience I believe porn is a poison that plagues our society. Those who disagree are only trying to justify their actions so they can do what they want without consequence because they are lovers of themselves over anyone/anything else. If you love him, talk about it. Sex has been made to mean nothing these days, but the physiological & psychological facts remain that it's much more. Look inside yourself bc that's where true beauty lies, the outward appearance is what everyone else sees, but it's not really who you are. You have to be satisfied with yourself before you can ever be 100% for someone else. My opinion: I digress...

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51 Posts
Mar 10, 2014 7:18pm
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Just because he watches some vids, doesnt mean he is less attracted to you in anyway.
I dont think you have nothing to worry about unless he is an addict.
Jusy talk to him about it

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139 Posts
Mar 10, 2014 7:43pm
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Yeah this is a workout app. Lol. But I think your bf should respect your feelings. And I think its disrespectful to find pleasure of other ppls sex life rather than jus your relationship. It seems unhealthy. ...but that's just my opinion.  I know alot of guys seem to do that ( and girls too). Just bc alot of ppl do it, doesn't meen its right or its ok for everyone else to. I'm not a guy lol....but then again that's my opinion. Everyone is different. Good luck though :)

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157 Posts
Mar 11, 2014 1:38am
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I think it is a problem, but it has nothing to do with you, you are beautiful. It is in man's sinful nature. There are scientific research saying that it is bad for relationships too.

11 Mar
11 Mar
It depends on what type of porn. If he's into innocent things like milf and teen three ways or black on white gangbangs then he will be fine. But if he's into twisted things like scat and vaginal vacuums then look out!
15 Mar
I bet this Scientific research" was does by religious manics.
15 Mar
What I want to know is in these "study's" how did the women feel about it? Were they completely fine with it? Or were they porn haters...I really think what makes the relationship fail is how the women respond to the porn, cuz yea if a woman bitchs constantly then Just like in anything else obviously the man is gonna run fast or bitch back creating an epic fail in this relationship. But then it also has to do with how the man handles this because because if he would rather get off to porn to the extent that he...
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168 Posts
Mar 11, 2014 6:13am
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Ash, think about it like this.

Would you rather him watch porn or have him sleep with an other girl?

We guys have been cursed with having to think about sex several times a minute. Let the guy watch what he wants. As long as you know he is with you and not with anyone else.

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108 Posts
Mar 12, 2014 2:30am
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I think I m gonna watch sum porn tonight

12 Mar
Sounds perfectly healthy.
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3 Posts
Mar 16, 2014 1:30am
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Hey girl I want to respond to this so badly but I do t have the time right now. Your feelings are completely just. I believe he cheats on you in his heart when he looks at other women. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but I'm shocked at how many people justify this. If there's a way for us this pm on this we should.  I'm so sorry for how this is making you feel. I've been I  your position. I hope we can talk soon.

16 Mar
I'm shocked your to narrow minded to see that his probably going to do it regardless of what she thinks about it. It's better that it's out in the open Then he has to Lie about it. My point is this. It's better fore her to know that there are no feelings in it and there are nothing to worry about. Then she has to go around and worry about it. It's not good to worry about a ridiculous things like porn. You can let him know that you don't like it. That May limit it, but thats really all...
17 Mar
I agree with Christan. There should be a compromise. But don't ever eliminate it. Because he might feel like you are putting boundaries. And no guy like being told what to do specially something as silly as porn. The people that more then likely have a problem with porn is religious fanatics. As every religious freaks would say... "porn is work from the devil".
25 Mar
Umn fyi Christians are not the only ones who don't like porn..so get your facts right...and not all Christians are perfect . We are ordinary ppl who face the same struggles and problems a unbeliever goes through. So I'm sure there are Christians that come across porn and might struggle with watching it.
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140 Posts
Jun 1, 2014 6:17am
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As long as you're happy with other aspects of your relationship its fine. But if it's all he does and if he also doesn't give you alone time for what you want  then that's when he's being selfish. And you look like you're in great shape. I let a guy get to my head that sat around all day and jacked off and when I got home there was nothing left for me. So I completely get how you feel. But if he's still paying attention to you and putting effort into your relationship and other things he does in life then it's nothing to be worried about and you should both be fine. :)

 

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