Normally I'd say simply to fisrt, fall in love with the iron. Second, fall in love with the struggle, and third fall in love with the results. Before reiterating to first...fall in love with the irrron.
But I won't this time. A conversation earlir with a young cousin of mine led me to want to share a "secret" with you young men, that was once shared with me.
What do women want?
The ultimate question indeed that plagues us all. They can seem such fickle, fleeting creatures at times can't they? But what do they want? How do you impress that potential life mate? That goddess of temptation and desire.
Before I go on; if you're hoping this is going to be a trick to sleep with every girl you meet or to just be a PUA, you're wrong. This is not what this post is for nor would I condone such use of it. If women were such trash that you can use and throw away, then you wouldn't have such a hard time getting one, and wouldn't be reading this...would you?
The reason many guys find it so difficult to impress a young lady is because, well, you're trying to impress the young lady. When your main goal and focus in life is to "get the girl"...sorry bud...you will not get the girl. What women want is someone with dreams, with goals, with ambition. With drive and determination. Well, any self respecting woman that is. And that's the one you should be after.
When women see that you're living your life, your happy, your having adventures, you're making something of yourself...that's a turn on to them. It sets you apart from the rest of the drool pack trying every thing in the world to be in her pants.
When you're unsatisfied in life (usually because your focus is on a woman and can not "obtain" said woman) that transends into her subconscious." How can this man make me happy, keep me happy, and satisfy me, when he can't make happy and satisfy the one person he should know best. Himself. "
Get it? Duh!
Ever wonder why (most) women love rock stars? It's not the money or the fame (in its entirety) it's because they live their lives, free, with no boundaries. It's because nothing or no one can stop them expressing themselves. Their passion. Their thoughts. Their soul. Rock stars don't chase women bro, women chase rock stars. (Peep the metaphor in context)
Soooo...if you want to have the girl of your dreams...focus on you. Make your other dreams a reality first. No matter how big or how small these dreams may be. Have a plan for your own future. Make the steps to execute that plan. Your finances, your livelihood, your buisness, your passions, your interests. Be someone of value. To yourself! Then the girl of your dreams shall come.
But...again...this is not a ploy to "get the girl"; if these methods are used, only because your main goal is to impress a girl, then once you "get" her, and all these things stop because you've conquered your narrow minded objective, you will lose her and everything you've worked for. You can't be fake here.
In closing; fall in love with the iron, the buisness, the plan, your life.
Second, fall in love with the struggle, the work, the process, the learning, the growth.
Then, my dear brothers, the results; the successes, the peace, the happiness, the accomplishments, the family to share it with.
But first...you gotta fall in love with you. And make something of yourself. For yourself.
(Let the comments from those of you who COMPLETELY missed the point begin)
The original post is so true... And it applies to women as well!
Another great post sir! And I would say this logic applies to both sexes. It's one of the reasons true self confidence is so attractive in people.